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Embrace your inner fool

"God loves a fool." I don't know how I absorbed that message, but it has comforted me many times. When I've confidently and determinately called someone…

Apr 1 •

February 2024

The Power of Living from Essence

“I just want you to see me!” I have heard this innumerable times in sessions with couples. It’s generally spoken with a crack in the voice, that place…

Feb 2 •

January 2024

For those who are in existential angst about our world...

Video demonstration: Climbing the Inner Map

Jan 10 •

December 2023

The Power of Integrity + Heart

THE POWER OF INTEGRITY + HEART We needed some legal advice for our coaching program at EPI, so I reached out to my favorite attorney, Julia Knearl…

Dec 1, 2023 •

November 2023

Ten Tips for Cocreative Relationships

I began this blog with the intention of recounting some of Kath and my worst fights. I couldn’t do it. As I stepped back into the yuck that I created—so…

Nov 27, 2023 •

September 2023

Seeking 20-something who is existentially gripped...

…by angst about the future. I’d like to videotape (and send out) an experience of a powerful process I’ve developed. I’m looking for someone between…

Sep 29, 2023 •

The power of rules

THE POWER OF RULES Rule: one of a set of explicit or understood regulations or principles governing conduct within a particular activity or sphere…

Sep 10, 2023 •

July 2023

35 Things I've Learned (About Relationships) In 35 years

Kath and I celebrated our 35th year anniversary on 7/20. We were partners until 2015, when we got married (I'm still adjusting to the word "wife.") I…

Jul 21, 2023 •

June 2023

The Power of Flow

THE POWER OF FLOW The half-rolled-up papers fell down the pull-down attic stairs. They were the plans for the newer wing of the music school, and the…

Jun 13, 2023 •

May 2023

THE BEST THINGS I KNOW ABOUT COUPLES' DYNAMICS I LEARNED AT THE DOG PARK

It's how we start most days, heading off with our two canine companions to the local dog park. We know many of the dogs by name, though actually asking…

May 11, 2023 •

April 2023

How I came to prefer the middle seat

I typed this from the middle seat on a Southwest Airlines flight from Denver to Tucson. The aisle seat was occupied by a muscular young man with a black…

Apr 3, 2023 •

March 2023

The Power of Connection

The audience of 70 people was still. Riveted. What they were witnessing is rarely seen in public. They leaned forward in their seats, trying to predict…

Mar 7, 2023 •

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